What to do about the holidays after a divorce

Holidays can be stressful for families at all times, but Florida families that have gone through a divorce might experience additional stress. Parents and children may be struggling with such emotions as sadness, anger, betrayal and fear. While parents may feel overwhelmed by these feelings, they still have to make decisions that will put their children first.

Parents may be able to manage their emotions by talking with professionals and loved ones. This can help them focus more on their children. It is important for parents to avoid letting feelings toward one another cloud their judgment. For example, a child should not be prevented from seeing the other parent during the holiday as a method of revenge.

Parents need to work out a holiday schedule, and children should know what that schedule is. This will help them with the adjustment to the new routine. The idea should be for the child to enjoy time with both parents and not for parents to compete with one another. Parents should take time to listen to their children's stories about the holidays with the other parent and avoid judgmental remarks. Parents will also need to be patient; the adjustment to different traditions will take time, but it should happen eventually.

Deciding how to spend holidays and vacations is a part of some child custody negotiations. Parents might include this in a parenting plan along with any other concerns they have. These concerns could range from which parent takes the child to which extracurricular activities are pursued, when bedtime should be and when the child will meet a parent's new partner. Parents are usually encouraged to try to work out any differences they have without going back to court. However, they will need to return to court for any significant modifications in the custody or support agreement.

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